A series on how my healing had been.

Choosing to take care of myself. Part 1

I know it’s just October, but this year has been choosy so far.

As you know twice a week (with occasional breaks) I have helped my mom volunteer at Cheshire. I am the tech ninja who sets up the audio-visual items we use. That means playing the movies and making sure the speakers are clear sounding. We use our own equipment except for the television. I can’t just trust anybody to do this except for my dad.

I was approached to help them with their equipment and teaching the patients. As my mentor Mary, would say “Don’t take a bigger bite than you can handle.” I was reminded about a chance to contribute to a local hospitality magazine.

I had to ask my mom for advice because I honestly didn’t know the cultural response and if it was right for me. I ended up not going with either offers. In fact, it pushed me towards to blog more. It was something I could handle.

The whole reason I took this trip was to rebuild my confidence and heal from the wounds of my life choices. For a long time, the bad stress took over and I needed to find myself once more.

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Sharing:  29 Short Messages Of Hope For Anyone In Recovery, Or Fighting An Addiction

We all need this.

Sara

Chester WadeSometimes I don’t have the right words. Sometimes when I try to talk to someone I love about something so heavy, so important, I feel at a loss. How can I convey my love? How can I show that person his or her strength? How can I urge them to fight, to continue, to…

http://thoughtcatalog.com/marisa-donnelly/2017/10/29-short-messages-of-hope-for-anyone-in-recovery-or-fighting-an-addiction/

Sharing: 20 Irreplaceable Life Lessons I’ve Learned From My Gemini Mom

Great advice.

Sara

Dakota CorbinAlways late in picking me up from school, or my ballet class, mum was always busy, running around errands, even for people she barely knew. At a certain point in my childhood, I started feeling neglected. Still, I had a mum who was active, played like a kid, and who at times would totally…

https://thoughtcatalog.com/marianna-sharktooth/2017/09/20-irreplaceable-life-lessons-ive-learned-from-my-gemini-mom/

Sharing: ANYTHING DEAR FRIEND

For all the friends who look out for one another.  This ones for you!

Sara

ANYTHING DEAR FRIEND Just ask, If at all possible I will be there, Do you need me now,? speak from your lips the words. For you there’s nothing I wouldn’t do, Reach out and don’t be afraid, call out my name. Anything dear friend, I promise this I say, Hear me as I’ll never forget […]

http://keithgarrettpoetry.com/2017/09/23/anything-dear-friend/

Faith, Hope, Courage

Between managing my two blogs and serving (see my tweets @SaraMahlet) I am taking time to rest not only physically but emotionally. I share various posts so I can give others a chance in the spotlight. I want to encourage people that things do improve and not give up trying.

Several people let me know that they read my Facebook posts and even my blogs. Many didn’t realize I had a lot to say through the written word. I want to emphasize subjects that need to be recognized globally. Give awareness to those linked with mental illness and other situations. It is not a taboo but a reality. Depression, anxiety, and body image to name a few. I get emotional about people who are snubbed for their personal beliefs or preferences. When I say blessings, it is for everyone Muslim, Christian, Hindu, Judaism, and Buddhists to name a few. I mean EVERYONE!

Since being in Ethiopia I have seen things that make me think twice about society. In my imagination, I see Iron Man, Captain America, Batman, Wonder Woman visiting these children and showing the world cares for the forgotten. What about Messi and his football chums these children would just feel awe seeing their heroes in person. Here is a leap of faith… The Rock, John Cena, and the WWE would get a royal welcome from their fans here.

Yes, this is the princess asking the world to remember these people risking their lives daily to change their own lives and their families. I could have been them if I didn’t have the opportunities I was given.

Sharing:  Celebrating Rosh Hashanah With Mulder And Scully

Happy New Year readers!

Sara

The X-FilesRecently, over brunch with my old friend from high school, Caitlyn, I found myself blathering on about my love for the show The X-Files. It had been a favorite of mine as a teen when it first aired, and I’d just started re-watching it, obsessively, during a week-long “stay-cation”. I had other plans for…

https://thoughtcatalog.com/joanna-greenberg/2017/09/celebrating-rosh-hashanah-with-mulder-and-scully/

Sharing: 25 Things You Need To Do To Heal Your Emotional Body And Release Subconscious Negativity From Your Life

I like these suggestions!

Sara 

God & Man1. Identify how your pain serves you. Nobody consistently self-sabotages without reason. The patterns and habits that you feel “stuck” in meet some kind of need. If you can’t let go of negativity, it’s because you are secretly using it for something. 2. Work on your ability to visualize. The only way to…

https://thoughtcatalog.com/brianna-wiest/2017/09/25-things-you-need-to-do-to-heal-your-emotional-body-and-release-subconscious-negativity-from-your-life/

Sharing: Our Unknown Neighbors to the South

Keep the faith and keep going! Sara 👸

As hurricane Irma inches its way to Florida, it’s hard to stop looking at TV pictures of the trail of broken buildings, flooded landscapes and unhappy, bewildered people it has left behind. For several long days now the storm has been punishing the small island that dot the Atlantic between Florida and South America, islands […]

http://teacupsandtyrants.com/2017/09/09/our-unknown-neighbors-to-the-south/

I was a struggling mother turned blogger.

I  was in the early stages of being stay at home mom and military spouse.  I couldn’t go to mommy and me programs/meetings because I couldn’t drive.  Too scared and ashamed I took to the net searching for others.  Hoping to find some support during this time of life.

I tried Blogger and got locked out of Tumblr. So to WordPress I came with my hopes and dreams.  I wanted to find a community that didn’t judge me for being different. 

I couldn’t breast feed because the stress just couldn’t keep up.  I was ashamed that I looked at the breast pump and couldn’t get it.  Shouldn’t there be some support group for this?  I dealt with the shame of going to the hospital nurse for advice to feed my own baby.  I tried the teas to help me relax and make milk.  I even watched things to just relax.

At one point I was visiting my family and broke down crying because I felt like a bad mom.  My my mom soothed my worries by telling me I wasn’t the only person to go through this.  She advised me to to continue the breast milk and formula combination and do my best.  That was exactly what I did.

Outside of a few close people I didn’t share the ups and downs of motherhood.  Thinking I was the only one I decided to journal as much as I could remember so I could share with others hoping to find a someone that could get me. 

Sharing:  A Letter To The Woman Who Thinks She’s Too Fat To Be Loved

We are all loved no matter what we look like. 👸 Sara

Unsplash / Zach GuintaYour worth is not tied to a number on the scale. You’ve grown to believe that your worth correlates with whatever number is on the scale. The lower the number, the more worthy you believe you are. When the numbers start to swing the other direction, your self-worth plummets. This mindset is…

http://thoughtcatalog.com/ginelle-testa/2017/08/a-letter-to-the-woman-who-thinks-shes-too-fat-to-be-loved/

From the last week of July.

Note: I was so close to trashing this post. I even had a difficult time titling it. Than my inner self said it’s okay to share this. People might actually get it. So here it is. Sara

Both my blogs might get more shorter portions. Personally, I felt awful when I couldn’t do huge detail like I wished. So, I decided short is better than none at all.
Then I realized when I changed my other blog to an even more simpler theme I got excited. It was a beauty and I was proud. To be honest I needed a break from Starting Over and decided to give My Journey Through Life a facelift with a grand opening. Ok that is my city girl side talking. 

Another thing I actually was very close to walking out on my Twitter account. Yes, I am so proud of networking than I realized people I thought were following me actually blocked me. Talk about a shove in the ego. Thankfully I talked myself out of it. I will just let people do the clicking and keep going.

For the folks who think I can puts stuff out when I can…. Guess what it doesn’t work that way. I have been trying to explain it without complaining. Consider me an artist with my words painting a bigger picture. I actually got a comment that described that. It made me feel pretty good.

On both blogs, I have expressed that I have been tense lately. I think that plus the cold weather caused my body to go on strike. It’s been pretty rough. I am just getting over a bug so I might seem extra spicy with my words or attitude. It was suggested that I write in the second person point of view. I felt kind of sad because a lot of the time I am putting myself in another person’s shoes and seeing the world from their point of view.

On my LinkedIn profile, I describe myself as a caregiver. It is true because my mom has Post-Polio Syndrome which has her slowing down a bit. Trust me the word disabled was not in our vocabulary except when parking the car, “Ooh there is a handicap spot!”

Being her helper is teaching me that sometimes you are judged by your appearance. Like for example in the West there are so many assistance for a person with a disability lifts for example to get them in and out of cars, buses, and other uses of transportation. Here in my native land we are lucky if there is a ramp that gets my mom’s wheelchair around without getting stuck. People literally stare at my mom whenever we go places possibly thinking “what are you doing here?” Is it really that unbelievable that a person in a wheelchair can go into a cafe? 

There are times I share things on Facebook because several people know I came on this trip to help my mom. I also use my blogs as a way to explain how I live from experience and action. I myself deal with my own situations differently from others my age. I was dealt this life that many others would run from.  

So, with that you can see how I want to give hope to others and inspire them to not give up. Trust me I know.


Until next time be a light in the darkness and help others in need.

My Journey Through Life can be a stepping stone to your Starting Over at whatever stage you are.

Sharing:  20. The Search For a Pot of Gold

There is a silver lining to this story. Just keep hoping. 👑

Some people say that things happen for a reason. Sometimes you have no idea what that reason is, and sometimes the reason is so obvious you can’t ignore it. Maybe the reason things happen a certain way is because they need to happen in that particular way. I know it sounds trite, but in the […]

http://thecurvyspine.com/2017/07/29/the-search-for-a-pot-of-gold/

Sharing:  12 Things Everyone Needs To Know About Anxiety Disorders

This is what I needed before.  Spreading the news for those who need it now.

Sara

Illustration by Daniella Urdinlaiz 1. ANXIETY IS THE MOST COMMON MENTAL DISORDER IN THE USA An estimated 40 million American adults suffer from some form of anxiety disorder—even more than those who suffer from depression. About one in every five adults and one in every ten children experiences some form of anxiety disorder. (source) 2.…

http://thoughtcatalog.com/jessica-winters/2017/05/12-things-everyone-needs-to-know-about-anxiety-disorders/

When You’re Losing Hope Remember Faith Is Always There

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If you’re reading this, maybe right now you’re in the situation where everything goes wrong; whether you’ve failed on something that you extremely wanted to pursue, your loved ones gone, or worse, you don’t have anyone to trust again simply because so many people have disappointed you. Life is extremely challenging until your heart was…

When You’re Losing Hope Remember Faith Is Always There

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When You’re Losing Hope Remember Faith Is Always There

Q: Which came first Starting Over in 2013 or My Journey through Life?

Answer: My Journey Through Life

It all started with a dream to write.  I love reading books and wonder if I can be the next Louisa May Alcott.  After rereading Little Women I knew that was what I wanted.  To be the Jo March of a new generaation.  I wanted to inspire and motivate from my own life.

Since I had a lot of time on my hands I thought why not do something positive. Write and chronicle my healing story.  Inspire others going through the same problems I have in my life.  Shed a little light on mental health.

My Journey Through Life is the prequel and this is the primary tale of starting over.  It makes complete sense.  People want to know about living in Africa.  Okay here are pictures and ideas of my life.  It all started in Addis Ababa in 1979.

30+ years later here I am in the same country just a lot older.  I am learning how to cope in a third world country.  How to heal from emotional wounds.  How to accept my heritage even the sad things. Especially how to cope speaking broken Amharic when my English is spoken too fast.

I am a proud Ethiopian American and these are my stories and outlook on life.  Most importantly this is my legacy for my son.